“She was born in darkness” – RA
A reflection from Cafecito Break Creator
My podcast was born during a dark time…
In the summer of 2010, I experienced an Awakening — not just the “I’m woke” thing, I also experienced a Kundalini Awakening that impacted every major aspect of my life including my ability to communicate and do math effectively. Everything changed so fast. I found myself in a new and very unfamiliar place. It was as if a veil was removed from my eyes.
I was engaged, living in a beautiful home, and Line Producing multi-million dollar show productions for MTV Networks. Outside it looked like I was living the dream life. And in many ways I was. I loved my job, my friends, my career, all the traveling, and money I made. But inside of me, there was a vastness of unexplored territory. I felt so removed from myself. I was anxious, fatigued, and stressed often. I wasn’t sleeping well at night. I wasn’t eating healthy.
I was so clogged up with thoughts that were outside of me that I didn’t even know how to begin the journey to get to know the woman I have become today.
All I can say is that it all began with tiny steps. And before that, it was a daring thought of understanding me and my dreams more fully.
There were many set backs. Many dark nights. Many lonely nights. Many hopeless nights. Many tears. Many times I held myself to sleep.
After the tears stopped, I felt an emptiness. In that emptiness, there was more room. And more insights started to unfold for me. I began to understand the world in a whole new way.
The biggest realization is best summed up by the words of Dalai Lama…
The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, he said:
Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money.
Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health.
And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present;
the result being that he does not live in the present or the future;
he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”
Two months after my peak awakening experience, I walked away from my job at MTV, my home, and most of my possessions. Everyone thought I was crazy. I am grateful I trusted my inner wisdom.
In a sense I was living the “American dream”, but I felt like I was missing out on something. I was disconnected to my voice, my passions, my intuition, my creativity. I was starting to feel like a little robot stuck in a routine that was sucking my life energy away.
I was exhausted on so many levels.
Why did you leave MTV? This was a question my family and loved ones asked over and over. I didn’t leave television production because I didn’t love what I was doing.
I left MTV because of a health crisis. I knew if I stayed the quality of my work would diminish and so would my health. It would serve no one. The wise decision was to leave while I could still do something about my health.
In 2010, after years of exhaustion working as a Line Producer for MTV Networks, not resting properly, and grieving the loss of my father, I returned home to Brooklyn only to discover a rapidly gentrifying neighborhood.
This was a major shock to my system. I went home to feel at home, to find a bit of rest and shelter, instead I felt like an unwelcomed stranger. My neighborhood looked and felt so different and it was rapidly changing.
With loved ones quickly being displaced and an impoverished community needing support, I was faced with many crushing realities at once. It is a grief I still carry in my heart. I miss my friends, loved ones, and the local businesses… So many have left.
Everything is changing. Everyday. So fast. But not just here.
I was already feeling undone… Life would have a few more surprises for me.
I found myself plunging deeper into the “dark night of the soul”. I would also face losing jobs and friendships.
I also became temporarily homeless and experienced a hit and run which left me with years of PTSD…(doing better now)
At the same time, my body was moving through a Kundalini Awakening that left me in a place of pain and confusion. To say that this was a difficult experience doesn’t begin to describe it, but I truly believe “What doesn’t break you makes you stronger” and all of these experiences have created a resilience within me that make me feel like She-RA or Wonder Woman! ha ha!
I have learned a lot about thriving within the many shades of darkness. Every one of those nights and stages were filled with God’s presence. I was never truly alone even in my darkness.
It is only now that I am starting to gather my words to share what I’ve experienced, what I have learned, what I have observed, what I am integrating, and how I have changed and expanded.
My podcast, Cafecito Break was born in this darkness. She inspired me to find the right words, to dare to express myself, to dare to dream again, to work with what I have and create beauty with it. She was a light that lit my path forward, gave me renewed purpose and a sense of direction. Every podcast I have produced has been a great teacher. No one will ever really know the treasure Cafecito Break is for me.
Cafecito Break is anchored in love, family, friendship, hope, faith, dreams, community, and prosperity. I invite you to check out our website. It is filled with images, videos, and podcasts with all of the above.
What a journey it has been… Now that I have witnessed my own descent, here’s to my/our rising! Wepa!
Thank you for being here.
In gratitude, RA
La Shamanessa | Visionary, Wisdom Keeper, Soundhealer, Radio Host & Podcaster
Cafecito Break has been serving the community of Williamsburg Brooklyn since 2011 via community events, vendor artisan markets, workshops, classes, donation drives, speaker events, and most of all our podcast.
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