The Way Angry Words Create Distance and The Great Big Loneliness

“Loneliness caused by your OWN words!

Many of us were raised in an environment of anger. Our parents and neighbors showed their anger towards people on a daily basis. You may run across people that still feel that it is ok to insult and verbally abuse people as a way of communicating. When you come into contact with these people they’re always looking to say nasty words to you and walk away quickly…..

A few of these people I personally know, and they post things about how much they are suffering from loneliness, and things about not trusting people. I do not respond to them, because I know that they don’t think their words are part of the cause of their loneliness. They are now in the late forties, fifties and sixties. I have met some of these people with their children who have unfortunately taken the path of their parents with saying rude comments to people.

On one occasion my son was present, and was not happy by the way one of these persons was talking to me. He said Dad, how can you take that from them? I said son, sometimes you need to get closure from your past by witnessing it again in your present. He said, if they say one more rude comment to you,they’re gonna hear a response from me that will shut them up completely. I said son, there is no need to get upset. They are trapped in their own negative words, and can not innerstand that they’re only making their life and the lives of their children worse than it already is. I said we can only pray for those who teach us the power of positivity from their constant negativity. GOD allowed me to come into contact with these people early in my life, so that I would be able to learn, and then teach a powerful lesson in grace and kindness to you.

If you continuously verbally abuse people, and your getting older, and people sort of leave you alone more often then you like. You might want to check and see if you have a long trail of people who only remember the negative things you’ve said to them, and nothing else. YOU may not have the opportunity to walk away from people after saying rude comments. Because most people have already walked away from YOU, for their own GOOD ,and for GOOD!! You can always CHANGE your life, but if not, then know this. Words are very powerful, and they DO come back to you the same way you put them out.” – Watermeshaman

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Division in America?

“The reason why the world lacks unity, and lies broken and in heaps, is, because man is disunited with himself.”  – Ralph Waldo Emerson

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I Did a Forgiveness Walk Yesterday

“We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr. 

“It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.” ~ Maya Angelou

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RA chats Remembering Sept 11th pt3

Why is it that 17 years later we are still trying to figure out what really happened on September 11th?  For many of us… life changed forever on that day.

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Remembering Sept 11th pt1

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When You Lose Someone You Love

“In Western Civilization, our elders are books.”
― Gary Snyder, The Practice of the Wild: Essays

The stories and memories we reach for in the end are so different that the ones we reach for when we have our loved ones in our day to day lives.

This moment is precious… Share it with presence!